Party Survival Guide for Introverts

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Hey, if a large party looks as daunting to you as an overdue trip to the dentist, you're not alone.
In fact, you might be one of the estimated 30 % of the population that's introverted.
So, introverts, today 's Wellcast is for you.
We 've got a five step method for getting you through and even enjoying large parties.
But first, we 're going to explain to you a little bit of the science behind why that knot of people
at the chips and dip is stressing you out so much.
Most introverts echo Greta Garbo 's famous statement, " I never said I want to be alone,
I only said I want to be left alone."
Introverts don't dislike social interactions, they just prefer to be with a small group of friends.
Research shows that from a very young age, introverts react to things in a very different way than extroverts do.
Take this 1989 Harvard Study.
A researcher named Jerome Kagan gathered 500 four month old infants,
and subjected them to a series of unfamiliar situations such as a balloon popping and the smell of rubbing alcohol.
About 20 % of the infants reacted very strongly to these triggers.
They screamed, cried, thrashed their arms and legs.
The rest stayed mostly quiet.
When Kagan interviewed these subjects years later, he found that most of the children
who reacted strongly to the external stimuli, turned out to be introverted.
So what can we glean from that?
Well, the answer lies in the fundamental difference between extroverts and introverts.
Psychologist Elaine Aaron explained it in a January, 2012 Time Magazine article.
Introverts have a low threshold for external stimulation.
They get their nourishment from internal stimulation... reading, thinking, listening to music.
And they 're drained by external interactions, a lot of people, loud noises, a party.
On the other hand, extroverts feed off of these types of situations, and they grow unhappy without them.
Because introverts are in the minority, in fact it's less than a third of the population,
they 're forced to live in an extrovert 's world.
They have to go to big parties and make small talk.
Essentially, they 're forced to do all of the things that drain them on a regular basis.
Hey, there are plenty of benefits to being an introvert, and we 're not saying that you should change who you are,
or walk around the party with a scarlet " I " on your chest.
But, because we can't always avoid these situations,
we 're going to talk about how to handle them with the least amount of stress and anxiety.

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